What I’m listening to: The Curiosity Shop — Brené Brown & Adam Grant: The Emotion Few Talk About, but Many Feel
Two things hit hard.
On public humiliation and violence:
The research reframes everything we think we know about school shooters. Bullying alone did not predict aggression. Public humiliation added to bullying did. That distinction matters enormously and it lands differently when you’re watching leaders on the world stage weaponize humiliation as a management style.
On shame, self-doubt, and who gets to call it growth:
The episode surfaces a pattern the HBR piece “Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome” named directly: the experience isn’t the problem. The interpretation is gendered.
Women internalize it: This must mean I’m not capable.
Men externalize it: This must mean there’s something to learn.
Same feeling. Wildly different default response. And we’ve been handing women a diagnosis when they deserved to explore their operating system.
The real question the episode leaves me sitting with:
What would change if we stopped treating self-doubt as a personal flaw and started treating it as data and a growth edge?
Listen to this episode and feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.
On Youtube: 🔗 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snL5grLhFzY
On Apple Podcasts: 🔗 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-emotion-few-talk-about-but-many-feel/id1730985049?i=1000763224504
On Spotify: 🔗 https://open.spotify.com/episode/7fKXNfNXZd4DiA9uAl6vJd?si=Udq0jGExQfiMj6dwG3LvGQ
Image credit: The Curiosity Shop, Brené Brown and Adam Grant